At times, we are confronted with situations that create hostile feelings. This is more than a minor annoyance that causes you to lose your cool. When serious events occur in our lives, they have a tremendous impact on us.
First and foremost, anger is a normal and natural emotion. Give yourself permission to feel the feelings. Many people walk around suppressing emotions, and this is so unhealthy. You probably have heard the term suppressed rage. You’ve also probably read news headlines about people completely losing it and taking their anger out on loved ones or other people with who they cross paths in their daily lives. Rage is a dangerous thing to be carrying around with you.
Do you really want to be that enraged person? Of course, you don’t. No one wants to think of themselves as an angry person. But it happens. That said, anger can be a catalyst for incredible growth and change if we let it. Step One is facing the feelings.
When anger strikes, we can learn to simply observe ourselves in a detached way, and then use those feelings to initiate positive change in our lives. Instead of repressing our emotions, which makes them even bigger and more powerful like an internal implosion waiting to happen, we can learn to control and direct that inner passion and energy.
Yes, anger can be channeled.
Think about it. It’s not so terrible to be angry, even if you might feel like you’re the absolute worst, ugliest and most unlovable you at that moment. Emotions cause us to become more aware. This is our psyche asking us to open our eyes, observe whatever is happening in our lives, and set some things in motion for positive change.
If you seem prone to feeling guilty about your anger, put a stop to it and let your feelings flow. Don’t let guilt override the passion that is inside you waiting for you to harness it.
Why would you feel guilty anyway? Maybe family members had a way of guilting you any time you tried to pipe up with your opinion or express yourself either emotionally or intellectually. If your family did that to you, it’s no wonder that you feel angry. Time to transcend your past, and grow.
Be okay with how you feel. As long as you aren’t doing something that would hurt another person, the feelings are okay; anger at times is normal and natural. It’s what we do with the feelings that can be destructive… or empowering, depending on what you choose.
Again, listen to your gut and to pay attention to what’s happening inside you, outside you and all around. Look for the transformation that needs to happen in order for you to move past the angry feelings that currently hold you hostage.
Remember, you’re not weird or abnormal if something happened in your life and the result is that you feel angry. But again, if strong emotions erupt inside of you on a daily basis, you really want to pay yourself some mind. Take steps to work through those feelings so you can emerge on the other side of the emotions with greater clarity about yourself and your situation.
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