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2025 My Loc journey of patience #locjourney #locs #hairjourney #100k #trusttheprocess #dreads
May 21, 2025
0:00 Intro
0:10 Hair Journey Timeline
1:30 Loc Budding
2:58 Locs in my Family
3:15 How I started my locs
3:36 Gray hair blues and transition
4:50 What locs mean to me
5:13 Positive self talk
7:20 Loc wisdom
My loc journey with pictures. Trust the process.
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my locks my
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liberation hey y'all I've been wanting
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to talk about this for a while not just
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my hair but my journey my locks journey
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from short natural curls to almost
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shoulderlength locks this has been more
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than just a hairstyle
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it is a lessons in patience
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self-love
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determination stick tuitiveness positive
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self-t talk really so a lot of people
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talk about the big chop i did that over
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25 years ago wore my hair short for a
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long
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time got married had kids my kids even
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would say mommies have short hair and
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daddies have long hair
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it was a whole thing my husband has long
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beautiful locks and when I was a
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teenager I remember dreaming about the
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man that I would marry would have
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beautiful locks and at the time I didn't
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have locks i had permed hair and you
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know that was my frame of reference for
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beauty and permed hair is still
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beautiful because it's the choice of the
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person wearing it so right
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now my choice is to wear locks and I am
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definitely in that phase where I'm early
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in the stages of my locks are trying to
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bud so there's
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frizziness there
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is just a lot going on and it's not
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always a clean
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cut step A to B to C all that kind of
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stuff my hair is doing its thing so
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that's the patience and the stick
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tuitiveness because y'all couple weeks
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ago I was thinking just cut it off cut
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it cut it it's got to go i can't do it i
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can't do it i was looking at old
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pictures of my hair short and the curls
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and I just remember that and I thought I
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love those days but then I reminded
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myself I'm like girl you know the second
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you see a cloud in the sky and a little
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bit of rain your hair is three times as
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big you don't have a curl in your head
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and it will be frizzy and fuzzy and you
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will not be happy you will be looking
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for the nearest hat to put on your head
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so that's the stick tuitiveness that I
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had to go back to i had to step away
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from the scissors and I had to get my
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head right
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so this video is just me talking about
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that lock journey so here are some
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pictures of how that
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started i started my locks so I did my
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parts i did all my sections uh fun fact
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I started my husband's locks and my
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oldest son's
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locks and they've had those locks for 10
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plus years and when I started mine I
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thought "Okay wow i don't even remember
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how I kind of decided on that." But I
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did my own I started my locks with coils
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that's how I started out with them and
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then I just let it go from there i am
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really loving how I'm learning things
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about how to take care of my hair how to
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style my hair and I did what most people
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do you go to the internet and you look
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at what other people look like i was
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feeling self-conscious about having gray
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in my hair and I have plenty of pictures
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of myself where I'm
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like "Girlfriend is feeling great
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wonderful awesome stupendous about the
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hair." You know you get you got the flat
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twist you take them out you get the
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little crinkle you're feeling good the
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gray is popping and it looks good but
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then I do the locks and then it starts
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to look fuzzy and kind of washed out in
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do you know that when your hair turns
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gray first it becomes lighter so like a
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lighter brown cuz my hair was black so a
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lighter brown before it going gray so I
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have multiple colors in my
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hair so some days that felt not so great
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and I got very self-conscious about it
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so you know it is what it is
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but locks are an ancient way of wearing
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the
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hair so from Egypt to India Jamaica
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Kenya locks were worn by warriors
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prophets rebels they meant strength they
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meant freedom they meant
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spirit and now for me they
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mean strength
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they mean vitality they mean
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choices it means this is me being
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me now it's still humbling sometimes
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when I go back to that selft talk where
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it has to look a certain way and fall a
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certain way because my hair is doing
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whatever it wants to do and it's not
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asking my permission to do any of
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that so I understand that but I'm also
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learning about
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self-love and it's really making me say
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to myself what message do you want to
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send to yourself cuz the energy and what
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you pour into yourself that's what comes
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out that's what's shown to other
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people
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and self- loveve is what I want for
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myself and what I want others to see
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that I'm trying to share with them you
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know I'd rather be around people that
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are happy that that have self-love
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rather than people that are hard on
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themselves and and very
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judgmental but anyway this is not
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about self-t talk this is about my lock
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journey my locks have taught me patience
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because you cannot rush this process
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it's just like healing just like growing
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you got to sit in it let it unravel let
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it reform itself it is doing what it is
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doing and now I have to say it is
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wonderful to see that my locks are
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starting
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to bud more and I'm getting some length
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and they're getting a little
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heavier so it's good to see that it
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feels good to to see that happening and
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I've seen people with faux locs or
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install locks or even lock extensions
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and I think oh wow that's you know I
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kind of feel like you're missing some
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parts of that you know but if you're
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going to have them for you know a couple
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weeks then I guess you know that's how
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that's how your locks will look for you
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but I do feel like you know you're
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missing part of that journey but if if
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you don't have the time or fortitude to
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stay with it you know it is what it is
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but for many of us locks are sacred
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they're a way of reclaiming our roots
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they are spiritual not just stylish so
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for me yes I do want some style i do
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want it to reflect me but I also realize
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that it is a spiritual journey so when I
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start to get too steeped in oh this
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doesn't look right or it's not the vibe
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I'm going for then I
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think check on your spirit do a selfch
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checkin where is your heart where is
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your mind really right
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now so my hair is leading me in a
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direction it's redirecting me in
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psychology we talk about being
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redirected sometimes when you have
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negative selft talk when you have
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negative vibes or feelings um or when
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you're when you're feeling like somebody
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is making you feel less than you have to
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redirect yourself so I feel like my hair
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is this subtle but stern
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redirector to get me to come out of that
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negative mindset that negative self-t
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talk because I'm fabulous i am awesome
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and if I can't say that every day and
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mean that stuff
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baby then my hair needs to be telling me
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girlfriend no you need to be redirected
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so humble
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myself
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listen and redirect because the negative
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selft talk will not stand it is no
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longer welcome in this house amand all
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right i didn't mean to preach but it is
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what it
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is so I look at social media and I think
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it's not enough people with it's not for
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me i would like to see more women with
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gray kind of in that transitional phase
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and so I'm sharing my lock journey to
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show what that looks like i am 53 years
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old 53 years fabulous and I've lived a
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lot of great life and I have a lot more
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left to
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live and I would love for people to see
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someone that looks like me that may not
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look like what 53 may be assumed to look
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like
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but this is a transition and so this is
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me figuring it out this is me sharing
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that whole thing and saying it's
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possible it's doable so if you want to
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do that and you need a somebody to walk
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with on that journey walk with me i'm
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here let's go locks have helped me shed
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more than
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just a way of presenting myself but
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they've helped me shed shame self-doubt
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the idea that I had to change myself to
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be loved having to look a certain way or
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have a certain
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mindset my locks have taught me that
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growth isn't always visible but it is
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something that is always happening so if
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you are on your lock journey or thinking
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about starting your lock journey
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remember this it's not about the
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destination but it's about the journey
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and becoming the you that you are meant
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to
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be trust the process honor your roots
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and wear your hair your crown your locks
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with
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pride i know I
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am peace and ae if you enjoyed this
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